41 # Cue Card (An incident)

An incident which changed your life

You should say:

  • What happened
  • Who was involved in it
  • When it happened

and explain how did it change your life.


Death, as one can imagine, is as jarring as life can get. It is the greatest anomaly in existence: the cease of existence itself. Ironic, I know. As heartless as it may sound, I'd never had much sympathy or empathy for death and the dead. It was simply a curiosity to me. I hadn't developed a better understanding of both the finality and suddenness of death until I attended a virtual stranger's funeral. The person who passed away was my friend's cousin, who I had briefly met when I'd gone over to her house for lunch a few weeks before his death. Being a relatively quiet person, I mostly observed. I noticed how at ease everyone was with one another, how assured they were that they would meet again, make plans, laugh and talk. The boy seemed perfectly fine, with what I presumed was great mental and physical health. Unbeknownst to both his family and I, the next time they would be seeing him, he would be dead. When I received news that someone had passed away, I was not very concerned. However, upon learning that it was my friend's cousin, I was shocked, to say the least. I had attended multiple funerals before, but they'd all been of people I had never met. Suffice to say, I genuinely felt heartsore as I watched his family grieving for him. That was the moment when the seriousness of death actually dawned on me. Ever since then, I've had a better understanding of how temporary this life truly is, which has helped me in both worldly and spiritual aspects of my life.

Written by Wardah Razzaq.